Do you ever notice that you have a hard time letting go of your mistakes? Maybe your mind goes on autopilot with all the what ifs . Or you replay a situation over and over, beating yourself up for missteps you wish you could undo. Maybe you compare yourself to others—sometimes favorably, sometimes not. Or you get triggered and traumatic memories surface, pulling you into rumination. However it shows up, the loop is the same: round and round you go, full of angst. If you’re a social person, this rumination may show up as talking things through repeatedly. Each time, it feels like just one more conversation will bring relief—yet it never quite does. If you’re not social, it may all happen silently in your head. Either way, it’s exhausting—especially because it’s rarely the thoughts that build you up that get revisited. It’s the ones that tear you down. Continue reading