There was a season when I didn’t like myself, trusted no one, and was on a path to self-destruction. Repetitive abuse had rewired my brain and convinced me I was broken. Today my nervous system is calm, my relationships are healthy, and Resolve to Rise exists to help others make the same journey—from “I’m broken” to “I’m resilient and able to heal.” The pivot point? Belief. Before we talk solutions, let’s name exactly how abuse rewires it. How Repetitive Abuse Warps Core Beliefs Repetitive abuse impacts core domains of our beliefs leaving us with with certain internal messaging that provokes a negative response to ourselves and others. Here are 5 domains in particular and the impact:   Self . Individuals default to self-blame—leaving them thinking ‘ if it’s my fault, maybe I can fix it. ’ Or they fixate on ‘ self-criticism, thinking I’m bad, broken, unlovable. ’ Others . Because early caregivers were dangerous, it leaves you believing intimacy isn’t safe. You may believe if some...

If this sounds like you… You live with severe anxiety, severe depression, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia or another serious mental illness (SMI). You’ve survived extreme—or even repeated—trauma. Your doctors focus on meds for mood, psychosis, or anxiety but rarely ask about your trauma If that’s your reality, this post is for you . The hidden numbers A multi-site study of community mental-health clinics discovered a staggering gap: 42% of people receiving care for SMI also met full criteria for post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) yet only 2% had PTSD written anywhere in their medical record.¹ When a diagnosis isn’t in the chart, it usually isn’t in the treatment plan. That means the trauma-driven symptoms continue on without intervention. And, yet there are so many effective treatments that can help. Continue reading... 

You’ve been doing the work. You’ve gone to therapy. You’ve read the books. You’ve made real progress. So why are you still getting triggered? It’s disheartening—maybe even disillusioning—to feel like you’ve come so far in your healing journey, only to find yourself dysregulated by something that seems small or out of nowhere. If this sounds familiar, know this: You’re not broken. You’re rewiring. And healing isn’t linear—it’s layered. Why Triggers Still Happen Even after significant healing, your nervous system may still be carrying the impacts of trauma —especially if the trauma was repeated or prolonged. This includes childhood abuse, emotional neglect, or relational trauma that disrupted your sense of safety and belonging. When life is calm, it’s easy to believe you’re “past it.” But a subtle reminder—an expression, tone of voice, a life experience, or external or internal sensation—can throw your body back into a state of defense . That’s because your brain and body learned to s...

  If you've ever felt overwhelmed in relationships—craving connection but pushing people away—you’re not alone. These experiences may not be about who you are, but rather what happened to you. For many living with Complex PTSD (CPTSD) , attachment wounds lie at the heart of the struggle. In this post, we’ll explore how CPTSD and attachment are connected, how early caregiver relationships shape adult attachment styles, and most importantly—how healing is possible. What Is Attachment and Why Does It Matter? Attachment styles are patterns of relating to others, formed during early childhood based on your interactions with caregivers. If those early relationships were safe, responsive, and consistent, you likely developed a secure attachment —the foundation for healthy relationships later in life. But when those relationships were neglectful, abusive, or unpredictable, the result can be long-term emotional dysregulation, fear of connection, and difficulties in trusting others—core fe...

When you're struggling or noticing that past events have resurfaced and are negatively impacting your life, you may find yourself searching for answers. Common questions include: What is trauma? Were my experiences truly traumatic? Am I experiencing symptoms related to childhood abuse? While we can't answer every question here, let's explore 10 critical things you should understand about trauma to guide you toward healing and growth. Continue Reading...  Trauma, PTSD, Complex PTSD, Dissociation

  What Can Make Hard Times More Overwhelming? When you're going through something challenging, it's easy to feel consumed by its intensity. When life seems unfair, we tend to notice every additional thing that goes wrong, amplifying the difficulty. Soon, we're not just struggling with our current issue—we're adding every disappointment or discouragement, making our burden heavier than ever. I think of it as the “piling on effect” or “kicking yourself while you’re down.”  Read More...

"We can’t go over it. We can’t go under it. We’ve got to go through it." That phrase, from the beloved children’s book We’re Going on a Bear Hunt , holds a deep truth about healing from trauma. Most of us want to move past pain as quickly as possible—to avoid it, numb it, or bury it under our daily responsibilities . But the only way to truly heal is by going through it . In fact, one of the core symptoms of PTSD is avoidance —avoiding reminders, emotions, and even the truth of what happened. But avoidance doesn’t free us from trauma ; it keeps us stuck on the inside . I learned this in the hardest way imaginable—the morning I woke up and found my husband had passed away in his sleep. Continue Reading...

  Best Treatments for PTSD: What Works and Why Some Approaches Can Make Symptoms Worse Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder ( PTSD ) can be debilitating, affecting every aspect of life—from relationships to daily functioning. Fortunately, research has identified several evidence-based treatments that have been shown to help individuals process trauma and reclaim their lives. However, if you’ve ever started PTSD treatment only to find your symptoms getting worse, you’re not alone. Some of the most proven therapies for PTSD can actually increase distress before leading to improvement. So, why does this happen? And what can you do if these treatments feel overwhelming? Let’s break it down. Continue Reading... 

Growing up in a highly disciplined or authoritarian household can shape how we navigate life in profound ways. Some individuals internalize the rules and norms they were raised with, following them without question, while others react against them, defining themselves by opposition rather than genuine personal values. In both cases, our upbringing continues to exert control over us, whether through obedience or defiance. For many, this strict upbringing is more than just discipline—it can be a misuse of parental power stemming from fear, unresolved trauma, or a need for control. Authoritarian parenting often leaves children feeling powerless, constantly seeking approval, or rebelling in ways that still tie them to the very system they reject. This can mirror patterns of emotional abuse , where a parent’s unchecked fears and insecurities dictate the environment, shaping a child's sense of self-worth and autonomy. Many people walk through life on autopilot, unaware of how much they...

The Weight of Unhealed Trauma Healing from chronic stress and PTSD isn’t just about moving forward—it’s about breaking free from patterns that keep us stuck. If you’ve ever struggled with shame, self-doubt, or the feeling that healing is impossible , you’re not alone. Shame often creeps in when we start doing the hard work of healing. It tells us we’re too broken, too flawed, too unworthy to truly change. It makes the weight of trauma heavier and, for many, leads to self-sabotage, avoidance, and giving up. But here’s the truth: You are not broken. You are not beyond healing. You have already survived, and that means you have the strength to move forward. That’s where the GRACE framework comes in—a foundation for navigating healing without shame, self-criticism, or perfectionism. Continue Reading... 

  What is Dissociation? Dissociation is a common trauma response , especially when trauma is repetitive or overwhelming. In the moment, it serves as a survival mechanism—your brain protects you by mentally “checking out” when a situation feels too intense to process. While this response can be helpful during a traumatic event, the problem arises when dissociation continues long after the danger is gone . It can leave you feeling: Zoned out or disconnected from emotions Like you’re watching yourself from the outside (depersonalization) As if your surroundings aren’t real (derealization) This isn’t a defect or something “wrong” with you—it’s your brain doing exactly what it was designed to do: keep you safe. The challenge is learning how to gently reconnect with your body and mind in ways that feel safe and supportive. Continue Reading...

Common Myths About Child Abuse – What You Need to Know When you grow up experiencing abuse or neglect, it can be difficult to separate myths from reality when it comes to the lasting effects of trauma. Misconceptions about child abuse often prevent survivors from seeking support, lead to self-blame , and contribute to the stigma surrounding abuse. Let’s clear up some of the most common myths about child abuse and get to the facts . Continue Reading...

How to Fix an Unhealthy Relationship: What to Do and What to Avoid Relationships can be challenging, especially when unhealthy patterns take hold. Whether you’re facing constant conflict, poor communication, or lingering resentment, you might wonder if your relationship can be saved. The good news is that with effort and commitment from both partners, positive change is possible. However, you cannot fix an unhealthy relationship if your partner is not interested in changing with you. If both of you are willing to take ownership of your behaviors and actively work on improving, the relationship may be salvageable. If not, it may be time to consider separation. In this guide, we'll explore the do's and don'ts of repairing an unhealthy relationship. Continue reading...

Journaling is one of the most transformative tools for self-reflection, growth, and healing. With a simple prompt, you can improve awareness, process emotions, and envision a more fulfilling future. Why Journal? Life can feel overwhelming at times, but writing things down can provide clarity and peace. Journal prompts offer a guided pathway, helping you explore thoughts and emotions you may not have noticed before. Continue Reading... 

Boost Your Mood Through Simple Movements: A Mind-Body Approach to Stress Relief Did you know your posture and movements can significantly impact your mood and perspective? The way we hold stress in our bodies—whether it’s in our neck, shoulders, hips, hands, or feet—can leave us feeling tense, drained, and disconnected. The good news? Small, intentional movements can shift not just your body, but your state of mind. Simple Movements to Enhance Your Mood 🦸 Superman Pose Standing tall with your hands on your hips, chest lifted, and feet planted wide can be a game-changer. Studies show that this power pose can: Boost confidence by increasing testosterone (the confidence hormone). Reduce stress by lowering cortisol (the stress hormone). Just two minutes can enhance self-esteem and help you feel more empowered. 😊 The Power of Smiling A smile is more than a facial expression—it’s a powerful tool to uplift your mood. When you smile, your brain responds by: Releasing neuropeptides that help...